Friday, July 4, 2008


Sometimes we take decisions that will affect not just us, but all those around us, especially the people who we love and who love us.

Yet in our best judgement the decision seems right and we are inclined to go ahead with it.

Does that mean that our actions show that we do not love our near and dear ones? Or does that show we love them so much that we'd be willing to take a decision that will benefit them even though it saddens us?

If only life was easier!

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hey...what happened

Aathira Nair said...

Something certainly does not sound fine.

I hate taking such decisions, but then I always believe that in such situations what I do is, I tell them, this is what I am going to do. It seems the most right to me an hence I shall do it.

Maybe even have a discussion but then eventually do what I feel is the best even though might be against the ones we love.

I guess this just makes it easier for me to take the decision knowing that I did try to make them see the sense in it.

Unknown said...

Hey Diniar, nice to see you on my blog!

Hey Aathira, it is true what you are saying and that is what has actually happened. Hubby is taking up an assignment that will take him to Netherlands for three months. The fact is, we've been down that road before...I miss him terribly as do the kids... Its hard on all of us..even him...

I do see that he has to take the decision, but it kinda disheartens me...coz I know what will happen once he goes.

Life is not easy when we have to take such decisions even if it makes us and everyone else unhappy!!

Unknown said...

You r rite sometimes we feel helpless abt decisions taken or to be taken. Part of life.
I am basically a person who changes decisions taken by me if others tell that they r not happy abt it. But have seen others mean fly members itself dont listen to me when i object to their ideas.
Then I feel like kicking myself. But again listen to these same persons next time.
So relax things will workout. I will pray fr u

Unknown said...

Hi didi... Thank you for the prayers. God knows it means to lot us at this point!

Aathira Nair said...

I am sure the three months will fly... with the kids in school, the days will pass quick :)

Vineet Rajan said...

you put it in the best possible words possible!

Unknown said...

Hi Aathira, I know...but its still not a happy thought.

Hey Vinni, thank you!

AmitL said...

Hi,Ritu-such decisions, believe me, are always for the best.At such times,think of me...me and my family..I was in Dubai for 4.5 years,they were in Baroda. Then,we were together in Dubai for a year.And,now,I'm back here and they're in Baroda.But,the decision is definitely for a purpose,so,it gets justified somehow.:)Cheerio.

Unknown said...

Hi Amit...thanks for your encouraging words!!! 4.5 years??? Man...I would die ya... I guess I am not as strong you know...

The Seeker said...

Didi,

This too shall pass! just three months, remember you're young and it wouldnt be difficult, and with kids who are growing up just like our inflation rate, u will find urself back with your hubbyji!!! soon.

and even our family had a tough time with dad and mom both 50+, me in hyd, bro @ coimbatore, dad @ pune and mom @ ooty, for a year we did have a family through correspondence, sometimes please learn to apprec0iate even things that test us the most! give in a beautiful smile and thank your stars for its just three months!!!

Its not a happy thought, but its the reality as for now! i suppose another 10+ posts or 15. and he'll be back!!!

keep smiling didji!!!

Romila said...

I can understand how terribly you'll all miss each other. Life's decisions sometimes are hard to put up with, but we've cosnole ourslef that its for the good.

Don't worry! 3 months will pass by soon and before you realize, your hubby will come back to you.

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Unknown said...

Hey Barath, I will remember your kind words... I guess I am just too attached to him and worse...I hate to see the way the children miss him...

Hey Romila, I agree that three months will pass... I am hoping that we emerge stronger from the experience. Thank you for the kind words.

Hi Harish... I can't hide anything from you. Now that you know how I feel you would know why I am not enthusiastic about your decision... I believe in our dreams too (although it has been tough sometimes to just carry on) and I know that we will see through all the ordeals together.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes we take decisions that will affect not just us, but all those around us, especially the people who we love and who love us.

Yet in our best judgement the decision seems right and we are inclined to go ahead with it.

Does that mean that our actions show that we do not love our near and dear ones? Or does that show we love them so much that we'd be willing to take a decision that will benefit them even though it saddens us?

If only life was easier!